Depression Stigmas…

Ever since being a sufferer myself I never realised the amount of stigmas and preconceptions that people have about people with depression. Especially when you tell someone that your a sufferer yourself. Before being diagnosed I shared many of these preconceptions without even realising it.

I think that most people just assume that every person with depression is suicidal or ready to end it all which is rarely the actual case. I always assumed that people with depression were ‘just being stupid’ and that they would ‘just get over it’. Or that they ‘just needed to cheer up a bit’. I was very wrong in thinking this and feel bad at the fact that I assumed these things! It’s definitely not something that you can get over in a day, a month or even a year as its something that is so very individual and personal as everyone copes differently.

There is also a massive stigma that follows depression medication. When I have spoken about my experience I have been shunned on multiple occasions because I take anti-depressive medication. I’ve heard things such as ‘Oh I know someone who took them and is really messed up now’ or ‘they aren’t good for your body’ or, ‘you shouldn’t have to rely on mediation to make your mood better’. Well yes If I could at the time of being diagnosed avoided having to go onto medication I would have, but counselling wasn’t for me and for me it was the only way to control the way I was feeling. And yes after a year of diagnosis I am still taking medication but at such a lower dose I can soon start thinking about coming off them all together.

I also found especially when I was first diagnosed and people began to learn about me being a sufferer that everyone began handling me with gloves as if I might snap or break down at one of their words. I felt as if they spoke to me as if I as almost stupid at times, stepping on egg shells I guess. I’m not stupid I just lost my way with the world for a bit. But then looking back I’m not surprised people treated me personally like that as I was quite angry and volatile at the time so maybe I forced them to step on egg shells.

These are just a few stigmas I have spotted or been approached with myself and I am sure there are many more but these are a few I have had experience in the past year. I’m glad that mental health is talked about more on social media, television and in convocation. I also believe that things like the recent mental health awareness week helps spread the word.

Thanks for reading.

Little Mayfly x


24 thoughts on “Depression Stigmas…

  1. They are so many. I’ve had a teacher tell me that “You need to have a little money to have depression. Poor people have no time for such things”. I take medication and people tell me to stop taking it all the damn time. Do they think I enjoy taking up to 11 pills a day? Of course I take them because a medical doctor decided I really need them. Also, I’m not going to get better if I try really hard. Depression is not a mood, it’s a chemical imbalance in your brain. I can cure that by being strong. Thank you for sharing, my dear!

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  2. I find people with depression can sometimes judge others as well. “When I had depression, I just did this”. I think people need to learn that we are unique and different things work, for different people. Thank you for sharing, a really great post.

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  3. The shaming that goes on toward people with depression and mental illness in general is terrible. 😦 I think the more people talk about it and raise awareness of what it’s really like and even just the fact that more people suffer from it than what one might realize, the better it will be for everyone. It shouldn’t be treated like a taboo subject.
    Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and experiences with this and to shine a spotlight on it. Depression is terrible and can eat people alive. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. It’s hard for people to understand how constant and utterly painful it is without experiencing it firsthand, so I think it’s so important that more people are discussing it openly. Hopefully it can help bring an end to the stigma. Depression is hard enough without having people make you feel worse about it.

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  4. Totally agree with so many of these and I have experienced a lot of them myself! I suffer from Atypical Depression which means I can often be okay for a few weeks or even months if I’m lucky and then something can trigger a really low point for me. The one that bothers me the most is people believing that just because I am smiling or seem happy to them, that I’m not suffering. Yes, I have quite an obscure form but believe it or not sufferers of depression can actually still smile sometimes!! xxx

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    1. I think that’s the worst thing I can’t believe I didn’t mention it! you become so used to putting on a face or a mask in public and then you get home or away from people and it hits you again! Thanks for sharing xx

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  8. I had post natal depression and I didn’t discover it until a colleague asked me if I cried alone in the bathroom. I had medication and I stopped as I was breastfeeding. I manage to overcome it through talking out. There’s no need to hide but find your Zen, u can overcome it.

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  9. Hi Little Mayfly. I want to thank you for speaking out on your experience with depression. I’m an author currently working on a book that accurately depicts a sufferer of depression, and highlighting the stigmas attached is important to me. Your post allowed me to get inside your mind and see what irritated you as you overcame this struggle, and gave me some great notes. Much appreciated, and continue to rise above it.

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